a condition called "LOVE" a disease that attacks
"Monica" was suffering from constant abuse by an intimate partner
Monica is a 33-year struggle every day to give a better future for "the reason for his life," his daughter Natalia 8. His home is modest but tidy, everything in place, decorated with tiny porcelain ornaments on a small shelf in his room and lavender colors of the walls, the room resembled a large field of peace and tranquility that a few years ago did not have.
Early symptoms
-started very young, at 16 years and we were lovers and we went everywhere, but what I liked about him was that he became violent with any argument, "He tells me while sipping hot tea, to warm the body before so shocking recuerdos. "I gave him no reason to bother me, but when one believes to be" in love "also believes that to blame" Move your head as you a brief pause, "Why keep him? - I ask I take my cup while smoking. "Because they think that everything will be different, that everything will change and that a man can change, but daughter if the man does not love you, never change" Leave aside the cup, takes the right hand the face of a pensive-Now that I'm calmer, I do not know how I could be with him, but he wanted to "Do your parents, your family thought about your relationship? - I say let him, that I would be fine if was standing. We would end, but again, all for promises of "love", I apologized and sometimes even made me feel guilty.
The disease hits hard
While collecting the cups, is in his face the harshness of life he had to go, in your face is reflected some of the brands that the "disease", who said to love her, impregnated her face. "I said the family of your ex-partner was violent" justify their behavior because of that? - I ask as I see how you feel and he settles into his large brown chair timeworn. I do not know, "he responds with an eye to the hole, reacts," Yes, it is true that he had a hard life, her father beat her mother, was their way of life .- You never talked to his family? - Trying talk many times with her mother, but Mrs. was sicker than I am. He looks serious. - What do you mean? - I ask. "She told me that a woman should always be beside her husband, no matter what happens, that this is the VIDA" It was his life, I tell him and asked, "You wanted to live like yours? - Well, things did not improve when we moved together, I depended on him and everything was totally thinking that he does not bother me, things got worse because they were not only hitting, but also death threats .- And your daughter? - She, when she was born, my daughter could not bear that she grew up in that environment, plus I was tired of his promises and his punches, he felt it was time to take an important decision for the future of the two.
Accepting help
monochromatic
The large clock on the wall that is close to the door in the upper left, looks guard showing the hours spent, nearly reached the half-day, Natalia and will reach the school, few minutes remain. Monica is quiet because it produced a light lunch, early and fast.
How could escape this cycle of violence in your home? "I was tired of everything, had to escape, be free and happy away from him as he has let his tears run down his cheeks," One day treatment to kill me, get drunk and hit me before my daughter was sleeping next to me, but stopped by the cries of the girl left and I do not wait, I called my parents and that night I went to file a complaint with all my stuff, "he said wiping tears recalling those bitter moments.
-When you reach the police treated me well and gave me legal advice and psychological support for me and my daughter .- Why do not you come before your family or the police? "I thought, foolishly, I'd better shut up and try to change the situation alone, because I felt it was my fault for marrying a man," he says in a sad and thoughtful, "but it was my decision to ask for help, relief, council, was the best I could have done .- Rehabilitation
How this situation has taken your daughter? "Well, she has seen the abuse, has also suffered violence, but are helping me, and she soon surpasses his young age by and because I lost sight of this man forever .- Do you think that you end this cycle of violence? "Sure, now and see my daughter and I advise you not to make the same mistake I did, carried away by a beast, I say a lot to consider having a career will help her be more independent and not rely of one and less of a man-As I said this, a shadow is translucent, deformed by the glass in the door Natalia is coming from school tired and disheveled, they give a big hug, he greets me, the part and goes to his room to change. It's time to go starting.
"I know my daughter, her life will be different, it will be better than me," he said looking at his young daughter across the room and get lost among the cream curtains dividing the dining room, it shows pride in her face .- What message do you have for women who still remain under the oppression of violence? - ask to close this interview .- That does not stop, girl! That life does not end there, in the violence. That are firm, be bold. I am proof that it can move forward, just put in your mind and realize that you are worth much and nobody should treat you well. Seek help, now if people hear the voice of battered women and enforced.
With a smile on her face, Monica says goodbye to me, so many cruel things to remember and strong in his life, have not removed the desire to continue to pursue a better future for herself and her daughter. This woman who appears fragile, looking at her a second time from under his door saying goodbye, the note is determined, secure and happy. Pamela Alarcón